October 10, 2012

BeAware Series: Porn Harms Marriage

October Be Aware Series: 
Pornography Harms Marriage
Talking Points & Resources to Aid in the Fight.
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Quick Facts:

Graphic_Info_MarriageStats**American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers found that “an obsessive interest in Internet pornography” was a significant factor in 56 percent of their divorce cases. 


**A 2004 study published in Social Science Quarterly found that pornography use increases the marital infidelity rate by more than 300%.

**Many partners feel that pornography is a devastating betrayal and describe pornography as just as painful or more painful than what we describe as a traditional affair/infidelity.

**More than 50% of those engaged in “sexual Internet interactions” had lost interest in sexual intercourse. One-third of their partners had lost interest as well. 

**Addiction to pornography has led to: 40% of “sex addicts” lost their spouses; 58% suffer considerable financial losses; one-third lose their jobs 

**Severe clinical depression was reported twice as frequently among Internet pornography users compared to non-users.

(These points are taken from articles on our site www.PornHarmsResearch.com)

Personal Experiences:

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“I’m anxious about writing this. Anxious that although I know rationally there is no way you can know who I am, I am still afraid. In one sense you will know me. I’m the woman behind you in the supermarket queue or sitting opposite you on the train. Middle-aged, middle-class, educated, professional. Ordinary. Yet there is something in my life I will hide from you, no matter how close we are…” – Excerpt from Big Porn, Inc. Read more here.
“My husband is addicted to pornography and has been for almost ten years now. In the past four years he spent $100,000 on pornography and lied about it for years…” – Read more here

“I mourn the loss of a friendship and love that wasn’t what I thought it was. I mourn the intimate moments we never shared…the moments where I was real and authentic, and my husband wasn’t. While our relationship hadn’t been great in years, I will miss the ignorant bliss I experienced before the discovery of his porn addiction. I lost a part of myself when that discovery came out, and I gave up a part of myself when I made the decision to take him back…” – Read more here.
Find other personal accounts shared with us on our website here.
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Research
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  • “Pornography’s Effects on Adults and Children” – click here
  • “The Effects of Pornography on Individuals, Marriage, Family and Community” – click here
  • “Compulsive and Addictive Sexual Disorders and the Family” – click here
  • “Couple Recovery from Sexual Addiction/Co-addiction: Results of a Survey of 88 Marriages” – click here
  • “The Impact of Pornography on Marital Relationships” – click here
  • “The Pornography Trap” – click here
Find many MORE research articles, along with relevant news and opinion articles about the harms of pornography to marriage and family at this link: http://bit.ly/QR03ZC

Do you struggle?
Here is a list of resources to help those struggling to overcome an addiction.

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Help continue these efforts!

You Can Help!
– Learn the facts
– Protect your home and family
– Spread the word. Help others understand that pornography is destroying marriages and families.
– Support our efforts. Contribute financially to help us educate others. Participate in our advocacy campaigns. Talk about our efforts with your friends and family.

Partner Helps

If your partner or someone you care about is struggling with pornography addiction, there are resources for you too. Here is a list of groups that can help in your struggle.

National Center on Sexual Exploitation

Founded in 1962, National Center on Sexual Exploitation is the leading national organization opposing pornography by highlighting the links to sex trafficking, violence against women, child abuse, addiction and more. The organization changed its name from Morality In Media to the National Center on Sexual Exploitation early in 2015 to better describe the organization’s scope and mission, which is to expose the seamless connection between all forms of sexual exploitation.

Further Reading