For Parents

Protecting and teaching children about the dangers of pornography and sexual exploitation is a big job these days. Here are helpful tools to make it easier. We have tried to organize them by categories to better help you find what you are looking for, but we encourage you to skim each category.

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Youth Movement Rises Against Snapchat, organizes #DeleteSnapchatDay

The Next Generation is Standing up Against Pornography and Snapchat June 1st was  National Delete Snapchat Day!! A social movement that is fighting pornography and opposing social media platforms that contain pornographic materials pronounced June 1st, National Delete Snapchat Day. Their efforts gained steam, with many young people speaking up on social media and sharing […]

10 Proactive Ways to Protect Young Minds from Pornography – Kristen Jenson, Protect Young Minds

“We need to bring pornography out of the dark where it has power, and into the light where our kids have the power.”

Google Just Made a Major Improvement for WiFi Filtering

We are encouraged to report that Google has made significant strides in providing families and individuals with better ways to avoid pornographic material online! Google has made a more public push to inform its users of online safety and digital wellness tools the company provides, including its ability to filter out pornography for home WiFi if you […]

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National Center for the Sexual Behavior of Youth

The National Center on the Sexual Behavior of Youth (NCSBY) is a part of the Center on Child Abuse and Neglect (CCAN) in the Department of Pediatrics of the University of Oklahoma Health Sciences.

The mission of NCSBY is to promote better lives, through better choices by youth, caregivers, and professionals for healthier responses to and prevention of problematic sexual behavior of youth. NCSBY provides national training and technical assistance to improve the accuracy, accessibility, and strategic use of accurate information about the nature, incidence, prevalence, prevention, treatment, and management of youth with problematic sexual behavior.

NCSBY is also designed to disseminate the efforts of the OJJDP and the Office of Sex Offender Sentencing, Monitoring, Apprehending, Registering and Tracking (SMART)’s Youth with Sexual Behavior Problems Program. This program targets late childhood and early adolescence for implementing evidence-based, coordinated, comprehensive management and intervention strategies to address problematic sexual behavior of youth, the effects on child victims, and their families.

 

The Association for the Treatment of Sexual Abusers (ATSA)

The Association for the Treatment of Sexual Abusers is an international, multi-disciplinary organization dedicated to making society safer by preventing sexual abuse. ATSA promotes sound research, effective evidence-based practice, informed public policy, and collaborative community strategies that lead to the effective assessment, treatment, and management of individuals who have sexually abused or are at risk to abuse.

They offer a clearinghouse referral list for those looking for help for their children, youth and adults. Inquires can include for a specific language, special needs, geographic location. They can also refer to experts informed about local reporting law requirements if callers are concerned about a behavior and related reporting legalities.

Quick links to specific some of the relevant places on their website:

Multisystemic Treatment Services

Therapists work in the home, school and community and are on call 24/7 to provide caregivers with the tools they need to transform the lives of troubled youth. Research demonstrates that MST reduces criminal activity and other undesirable behavior. At the close of treatment, 87% of youth have no arrests.

Problematic Sexual Behavior – Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for School-aged Children

PSB-CBT-S is a family-oriented, cognitive-behavioral, psychoeducational, and supportive treatment group designed to reduce or eliminate incidents of problematic sexual behavior. This program involves the family or other support systems in the child’s treatment and requires weekly caregiver attendance and active participation, monitoring and supporting the child’s application of skills between sessions, and ongoing assessment of child progress in treatment.

Check with the Center on Child Abuse and Neglect (CCAN) in the Department of Pediatrics of the University of Oklahoma Health Sciences for help finding trained professionals.

 

Private In-patient Treatment Facilities

Star Guides is absolutely unique among therapeutic programs for teens because of its specific focus on diagnostic assessment and treatment of teen sexual and relational behavior issues offering counseling and therapy options for both males and females. Ages 13-22.

CAPSTONE TREATMENT CENTER is a Christ-centered, residential, behavioral-care program. We help families with sons ages 14-25 who struggle with a wide range of self-destructive behaviors; alcohol / drug abuse, problematic sexual behaviors including pornography; trauma and its symptoms – self harm, isolation, depression, anxiety; compulsive video gaming; and family issues that inhibit peace, harmony and quality relationships.

Neari Press & Training Center

NEARI Press & Training Center provides resources and training for the prevention of sexual violence. We are a source of practical, cutting-edge information for professionals and the public about promising and best-practice interventions for individuals with sexual behavior problems. We believe that by addressing healthy sexual development in children and adolescents, and responding to sexual behavior problems in children, adolescents, and adults, we can prevent sexual abuse before it is perpetrated.

 

Child Advocacy Centers – The National Children’s Alliance

National Children’s Alliance (NCA) is the national association and accrediting body for Children’s Advocacy Centers (CACs). A Children’s Advocacy Center is a child-friendly facility in which law enforcement, child protection, prosecution, mental health, medical and victim advocacy professionals work together to investigate abuse, help children heal from abuse, and hold offenders accountable.

CACs will definitely be able to help a victim of child sexual abuse and many are developing programs to help serve a youth with problematic or illegal sexual behavior. The NCA has made this a priority and many of the CACs around the country are developing programs.

Direct link to their webpage on PSB

 

Juveniles Who Commit Sex Offenses against Minors 

Bulletin published by the U.S. Department of Justice’s Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention (OJJDP).

This Bulletin draws on data from the Federal Bureau of Investigation’s National Incident-Based Reporting
System to provide population-based epidemiological information on juvenile sex offending.

It is OJJDP’s hope that the findings reported in this Bulletin and their implications will help inform the policy and practice of those committed to addressing the sexual victimization of youth and strengthening its prevention and deterrence—considerations that are critical to success. Their efforts to protect youth from victimization, or from becoming victimizers themselves, have our support and commendation.

 

The National Child Traumatic Stress Network

The National Child Traumatic Stress Network (NCTSN) was created to raise the standard of care and increase access to services for children and families who experience or witness traumatic events.

 

The Center for Sex Offender Management (CSOM)

The Center for Sex Offender Management (CSOM) is a national clearinghouse and technical assistance center that supports the public and state and local jurisdictions in the effective management of sex offenders who are adults and juveniles.

 

The National Juvenile Justice Network (NJJN)

The National Juvenile Justice Network (NJJN) leads a movement of state-based juvenile justice reform organizations and alumni of its Youth Justice Leadership Institute to fight for a fairer youth justice system that’s appropriate for youth and their families. NJJN advocates for policies and practices that treat youth in trouble with the law with dignity and humanity and which strengthen them, their families and their communities.

Other examples of experts/resources:

  • Su Robinson, LICSW, VT (Girls with Problematic Sexual Behaviors) – Su Robinson does not have a website. Her contact information is: surobin@hotmail.com 802-489-5826 x 17, New England Counseling & Trauma Associates, LLC, 5399 Williston Road, Suite 207, Williston, VT 05495. Robinson is a resource for those who work with girls with problematic sexual behaviors. Her work began in the 90’s in Colorado, but has been in Vermont since 2006. She authored the first workbook designed for adolescent females with sexually abusive behavior. Once Robinson moved to Vermont, she noticed how completely difference criminal justice and support services appeared to be in the two states. Robinson does assessments, psycho-sexual evaluations and individual treatment with girls/women. Like many therapists who work with these issues she started by doing groups and applying models that were designed for males. She learned the need to have female specific work and to provide treatment that is both trauma-informed and offense-specific.

 

  • Kevin Creedon, Whitney Academy In his training, “Can we teach these kids to dance? A developmental approach to youth with sexual behavior problems,” Creedon explores a wide range of topic areas including: the role of attachment, child development, neuro impact of trauma.

 

  • David Prescott; Trainings on best practices for treating adolescents who’ve offended

 

  • Tom Leversee, Colorado 40 years of working with youth and their families involved in juvenile justice system; also on the Colorado Sex Offender Management Board

 

  • Toni Cavanaugh Johnson known for her work on expected sexual development in children and clarification of what is problematic versus expected behaviors in childhood

 

  • Timothy Kahn, Connecticut – for children and young adolescents Pathways model; wrote “Pathways: A Guided Workbook for Youth Beginning Treatment”.

 

 

While may be tempting to think of treatment for youth who commit offenses as totally separate from treatment for those victimized, some families have both those who did the harm and those harmed. Imagine the added challenges for parents and caregivers when attempting to understand and to meet the needs of both.

ATSA (Association for Treatment of Sexual Abusers) refers to trained therapists who serve non-offending parents/partners/family members.

 

Florida Action Committee Reforming Sex Offender laws– Gail Colletta, mother whose son sexually abused a child as an adolescent, he got a long sentence, the founder/mother is herself a survivor but concerned about FL laws as the affect youth

 

Reform Sex Offender Laws (RSOL) & Women Against Registry (WAR) are examples of grass root groups of individuals/families who’ve been negatively affected by a family member criminal history leading to that person being on the sex offender registry

 

Start Talking: 10 Conversation Starters
A talking-points resource compiled for you by leaders in the movement to end exploitation.

ProtectYoungMinds.org
Managed by award-winning authors of Good Pictures, Bad Pictures, this blog has frequent updates on how to start conversations with your children on healthy sexuality and how to build trust and keep the conversation going.

Culture Reframed Parents Program

We understand how daunting it can be to raise kids in a culture where they are bombarded with sexual images, including porn. That’s why we have provided this complete best-practice toolkit, which will help you raise porn-resilient kids. This program is amazing – it is research-based and FREE!

Educate and Empower Kids
Incredible resource that helps parents create an environment to make these topics safe to discuss and empowers parents with talking points and communication strategies. They also regularly update their news section with current events and dangers that parents should be aware of. They have written three books “30 Days of Sex Talks” for kids in age ranges of 3-7, 8-11, and 12+.

Fight the New Drug
If anyone knows how to get through to the pre-teen to young adult age groups, this is the group! They regularly present at middle schools, high schools, and colleges about the harms of pornography and have made it “COOL” to talk about these things. Parents can learn a lot from their material and it would be a great idea to visit their website together with your teens.

BOOK: Good Pictures, Bad Pictures and Good Pictures, Bad Pictures, Jr.
Best-selling book on Amazon that can be read together with your children (even as young as five!). The book gives kids a 5-point plan that teaches them how to avoid the brain-warping images of pornography and minimize the troubling memories of accidental exposure that often tempt kids to look for more and lead them into a dark and destructive addiction.

eChildhood

eChildhood is an Australia-based charity dedicated to mobilising responses that reduce the harmful effects of pornography on children and young people. Their annual reports on harms to chlidren, public health approach, and regular updates are great tools to help any parent, grandparent, educator, and others keep up!

Covenant Eyes

While you likely know about Covenant Eyes as an accountability and Internet safety tool, they also have really incredible resources to assist individuals, especially parents, in talking about these issues. Their blog is updated regularly with useful tips and ideas and they have a podcast, ebooks, and regular webinars all for free. Their resources are a go-to place for NCOSE staff to keep up with latest tech dangers and issues impacting kids and families.

Protect Young Eyes

PROTECT YOUNG EYES HELPS KEEP KIDS AND TEENS SAFE FROM THE DANGERS LURKING ON PORTABLE, INTERNET-READY DEVICES.

White Ribbon Week

White Ribbon Week is a positive school program presented by volunteers or teachers that helps kids make healthy choices in media and technology. Every day, kids learn a new principle of online behavior—reinforced through discussions and fun activities. This program is research based and kid tested.

The Naked Truth Project

The Naked Truth Projects, based out of the UK, hosts school events, parent workshops, conferences and produces books on the topic of keeping kids safe from pornography. It is a christian perspective, but helpful for the whole community.

Internet Safety 101 Program
Specially designed training program for parents and youth to help equip kids with tools to protect themselves online. The program covers many dangers such as avoiding predators, bullying, privacy, and pornography.

Teen Safe
Tool to allow parents to monitor their children’s texts, calls, social media, location and more. The blog has helpful information about many of the dangers they face in the digital world.

Cherished
Cherished is a nonprofit organization, comprised of a residential program and social enterprise that is run by survivors of commercialized sexual exploitation, human trafficking, addictions and life on the streets.

 

Almost all systems and platforms have some sort of built-in parental controls that we encourage you to turn on. For example: iPhone or Android restrictions, using Safe Search on Google, parental controls on videogame systems, restricting mature rated content through your cable/satellite provider, etc.

Learn about the built-in protective measures provided by many of the popular systems used today:

 

Here are how-to guides on how to turn these on for different systems.

Here are third-party systems that may also be a help to you and your family:

Please check our resources page on Technology Solutions and Tools for a more comprehensive and a constantly updated list.

Safety Centers by Social Media or Digital Tools

The following organizations regularly feature Internet Safety updates as well as other parenting tips on their blogs:

Other Internet Safety Resources:

 

 

  • Child Justice, Inc. according to their website is a non-profit that advocates for children’ rights when the courts fail to protect them from abuse and domestic violence including CSA.

 

  • Justice4PaKids According to the website the mission of Justice4PAKids is to stop child sexual abuse through a variety of educational programs. Justice4PAKids also connects victims to legal and therapeutic counseling.

 

 

·       Legal Services for Children, Development of ARC (Advocacy, Relationship, Coordination), California (from website)

For children who are victims of abuse and exploitation. Legal Services for Children (LSC) provides free legal and social services to children and youth in need. Each year, LSC serves over 2,500 children and provides comprehensive representation to approximately 600 youth. World Childhood Foundation supports the development of ARC (Advocacy, Relationship, Coordination) to enhance agency response to child trauma and part of establishing services at the Center for Youth Wellness.

 

  • Transgender Law Center: According to the website the Transgender Law Center works to change law, policy, and attitudes so that all people can live safely, authentically, and free from discrimination regardless of their gender identity or expression https://transgenderlawcenter.org/

 

  • Transgender Justice Project  According to the website TGI Justice Project is a group of transgender, gender variant and intersex people—inside and outside of prisons, jails and detention centers—creating a united family in the struggle for survival and freedom.

    We work in collaboration with others to forge a culture of resistance and resilience to strengthen us for the fight against human rights abuses, imprisonment, police violence, racism, poverty, and societal pressures. We seek to create a world rooted in self- determination, freedom of expression, and gender justice.

    Members:
    Low income transgender women of color and our families who are in prison, formerly incarcerated, or targeted by the police.

http://www.tgijp.org; (transgender Variant Intersex Justice Project)

 

  • Victims Right Center The center provides legal supports and serves as a catalyst for justice for ever victim of any type of sexual violence.

 

  • Voices Today, Inc. is partnering with others to start a Law Center for child sexual abuse victim’s cases in Georgia.

ATSA, through its national line, and then member network, can provide local referrals for specifically trained therapist. Maia Christopher, Executive Director

 

Circles of Support and Accountability (Qualitative Evaluation) (COSA) A summary of COSA and related evaluations by Robin Wilson, explains that this model that grew from Canadian Mennonites and has gone international builds on restorative justice with professional supports and brings the community into assisting in risk management of released sex offenders. The evaluations point to increased accountability and greater safety for victims.

 

Stop it Now! Helpline http://www.stopitnow.org/get-immediate-help?color_box=width%3D600%26amp%3Bheight%3Dauto; (helpline)       http://www.stopitnow.org; (general) is primarily geared towards adults; it’s also a source for information and assistance for professionals and parents of youth who has problematic/harmful sexual behaviors.

 

StopSO, (Specialist Treatment Organization for the Prevention of Sexual Offending, UK)

These UK services are for anyone who feels at risk to commit a sex offense as well as those who have but who have not been caught. UK has different sets of reporting laws than the US and in various countries are look to ways to get those at risk to offend to seek help to not start or to stop harmful behaviors. On their website they outline the following ways to know “if therapy is for you”

  • You feel that your thoughts are worrying, and want help with them
  • You suffer stress, low self-esteem, depression or isolation
  • You worry that your behavior may escalate
  • Your behavior may be impacting on relationships, family and work
  • You feel on the brink of committing a sexual offence
  • You feel on the verge of losing everything
  • You are concerned that your behavior may become out of control
  • Other people may be at risk
  • Alcohol, drugs or other addictive behaviors may be increasing in an attempt to cope
  • You may be a man, or a woman, adult or adolescent
  • You may have had bad experiences of therapy in the past, and be reluctant to ‘try again’
  • You may know someone who is acting inappropriately

 

StopSO therapists are trained to work with everyone, in a non-judgmental way. They also offer family therapy and a range of resources for professionals who do this work

 

Self Help for those with Pedophilia (grass roots)

Self-help groups for those with pedophilia, or who struggle with problematic or compulsive behaviors but who haven’t acted, are one way for those seeking help to not harm a child can seek support to not act. Some of the groups have worked to build connections with professional associations of therapist and others have not. Some make it clear that an adult “having sex” with a child is always wrong. Most highlight the importance of seeking help so they do not harm a child.

 

ASAP Association for Sexual Abuse Prevention, Gary Gipson/Oregon, has goals of preventing sexual abuse by making therapy available to those with pedophilia before they ever act. Other goals are to educate the public and link non-offending pedophiles with therapist. Former website of theirs was “ilovechildren.net” which got a range of response from around the world.

 

Blue Rock Institute, for those who struggle with problematic and compulsive sexual behaviors including pedophilia or who are addicted to child pornography but who haven’t acted. Joan Tabachnick wrote a blog about founder Chuck Flinton

 

Virtuous Pedophiles (Nick Devlin) – This effort takes a hard line that sex with children is always harmful.

Circles of Parents, Circles of Parents split from another resource, Parents Anonymous. Circle of Parents are parent and care provider led support circles. According to Linda Johnson, PCAVT executive director, at their Circles of Parents program, the majority of parents (3/4) have histories of being sexually abused as children or adults and/or their children have been; and 25% are referred by Department of Children and Families or Family court and have been accused of hurting their one children – the rest self-refer. These groups are for all types of child maltreatment and neglect including child sexual abuse or related problematic behaviors. However, no perpetrators of sexual violence are permitted to join.

 

Inner Circle   offers support to friends and family facing the challenges of supporting someone who has offended. Inner Circle is a Support Group for Friends and Family of those who have offended.  This Group is Hosted at Project Pathfinder but facilitated by family members who have had to navigate the issues surrounding supporting and/or being involved with those who have sexually offended. Inner Circle is free of charge and is offered to the community at large, not just Project Pathway clients.

 

Mothers of Sexually Abused Children (MOSAC)  The MOSAC site is designed specifically for mothers who have experienced the sexual abuse of one of their children. Life is difficult for mothers following the disclosure of a child’s abuse, and they often have few, if any, resources available to them. This site is designed to be a comprehensive source of information about sexual abuse and to offer support and resources. (from website)

NEARI Parent to Parent Resources podcast by a range of issue experts and other tools for parents.

 

Nurturing Parent Programs: PCAVT modified version of their CSAP program to be specifically for at risk parents. They offer these programs about 70 times a year and also have contract to do them in men’s prison. The programs are multiple sessions, from 13-19 weeks.

Stop It Now! Help Line is for those looking for information, referrals for victims of CSA, youth or adults with problematic sexual behaviors; family members; professionals who work with them. The helpline is open 5 days a week from 12-6 and also can be reached via phone, email, social media and soon chat or text. Their updated website is a source of information for follow-up to callers or resources when the line is not active. They have a wide range of calls from parents wanting to know how to talk to their children about sexual abuse to an email from teens looking for help. As executive director, Jenny Coleman explained, we’ve had a teen who called saying, “Please help me. I will kill myself if I hurt a child and yet I have this interest in children.” The Stop It Now! Helpline networks with several other helplines to be able to offer more comprehensive services.

 

 

 

 

Families of children victimized, families of youth who’ve caused harm & families of adults who’ve sexually offended

 

While may be tempting to think of treatment for youth who commit offenses as totally separate from treatment for those victimized, some families have both those who did the harm and those harmed. Imagine the added challenges for parents and caregivers when attempting to understand and to meet the needs of both.

ATSA (Association for Treatment of Sexual Abusers) refers to trained therapists who serve non-offending parents/partners/family members.

 

Florida Action Committee Reforming Sex Offender laws– Gail Colletta, mother whose son sexually abused a child as an adolescent, he got a long sentence, the founder/mother is herself a survivor but concerned about FL laws as the affect youth

 

Reform Sex Offender Laws (RSOL) & Women Against Registry (WAR) are examples of grass root groups of individuals/families who’ve been negatively affected by a family member criminal history leading to that person being on the sex offender registry

 

 

 

 

 

 

Helplines & Hotlines

Hotlines and Helplines vary in scope from serving as referral and crisis lines with emphasis on reporting assistance to anonymous lines and offering short-term counselling/support and links to a broader range of services. Changing with technology, more such lines also offer ways to connect through chat and test and every changing digital and social media formats.

 

 

  • I in 6 for information and support for men who are survivors of child sexual abuse. 1 in 6 has CHAT page for help 24-7 with trained advocates. A number of the other help and hotlines refer adult male survivors of child sexual abuse to them.

 

  • 2-1-1 According to the United Way 2-1-1 website, 2-1-1 is a free, confidential service for people across North America to be linked to the local mental health services they need. The service is 24/7 and staffed by highly trained professionals.
    • When emailing their general line instead of entering zip code, state, city, county to find needed resources the return email says

If you are in need of 2-1-1 services, please dial 2-1-1 from your phone or use the search function at www.211.org to find the 2-1-1 center near you. If this is an emergency, please dial 9-1-1 or one of the following crisis hotlines:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255)

Fortify

Online recovery program built to help overcome struggles with pornography. Due to the fact that everyone’s recovery is unique and varies from individual to individual, the Fortify Program helps you create your own personal Battle Strategies so that you can overcome your struggle in a way that is perfect for you. This program is especially helpful for teens and young adults as well.

Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA)

A recovery program based on the principles of Alcoholics Anonymous (Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions) adapted, with permission, for recovery from sex addiction. Local meetings around the country.

Sex Addicts Anonymous Primary Purpose (SAAPP)

A recovery program based on the principles of Alcoholics Anonymous (Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions) adapted, with permission, for recovery from sex addiction. There are local groups around the country, and call-in groups as well.

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)

A recovery program based on the principles of Alcoholics Anonymous (Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions) adapted, with permission, for recovery from sex addiction.

Recovering Couples Anonymous (RCA)

A recovery program based on the principles of Alcoholics Anonymous (Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions) adapted, with permission, for couples recovering from sex addiction.

International Association of Certified Sex Addiction Specialists (IACSAS)

Our goal is to train and promote those clinicians and church leaders who demonstrate a standard of excellence in training, education, and practice as sexual addiction specialists.  Our vision is to train and equip a growing body of competent Christian counselors worldwide so they will have a transforming impact on the culture.

Clinicians who are certified by the IACSAS have received training, education, and supervision in understanding and treating sexual addiction.  The IACSAS is committed to supporting training opportunities and to conducting research in the field of sexual addiction.

NoFap®

NoFap® is a comprehensive sexual health platform, empowering people to express their sexualities free from compulsive behaviors. The NoFap® platform guides users through the porn addiction recovery process, known as “rebooting,” through education about the mechanisms of porn addiction and recovery, programs designed to allow users to meet their sexual health goals, and applications that allow users to stay motivated, connect with experts and peers, and document their progress. NoFap® has a large user-base, making it a great place to connect with others going through similar struggles who can offer mutual support and encouragement.

LifeStar Network

This program is divided into 3 levels of intensive group therapy lead by highly trained and licensed therapists. LifeStar strongly suggests that participants also participate in individual and/or couples therapy, along with a 12-step SAA program outside of the LifeStar program.

Avenue Ministry

Confidential Healing Groups for Pastors, Men, and Women: Avenue empowers change through healing groups of like-minded men or women with the same needs, led by Avenue Alumni. Avenue is a confidential environment for women to overcome wounds from broken intimacy, trust, loss, and, to heal and thrive. Avenue also helps your church through its ongoing Leader Coaching, which keeps the burden off the pastoral staff. It equips leaders and the church with comprehensive Leader Tools, Church Visual Kit and sermon notes.

Addo Recovery

Offers online addiction therapy programs, as well as individual online and in-person therapy.

Candeo Healthy Sexuality

Candeo’s cognitive behavior modification program is presented in an interactive, multimedia format. It begins with training videos to educate addicts about the brain science behind addiction.

Cure the Craving

Working directly with founder, Tony Lister, addicts will receive access to: 1 hour weekly group coaching call, monthly Q&A call session, 10-min weekly check in call, personal customized affirmation audios, 21-day audio program, and a Lifeline call for emergencies.

Compulsion Solutions

Multiple options to customize treatment: one-on-one counseling, inpatient treatment, group counseling, and retreats, along with an online course.

Desert Solace

A residential recovery center for individuals and families. The curriculum is spiritually-based and includes individual and group therapy, a 12-step program, health and wellness training, after-care, creative arts, music therapy, and life balance education in the areas of emotional, physical and relational well-being.

Feed the Right Wolf

This course recommends addicts read their list of 23 articles that “contain all of the information that you need to break free from pornography addictions,” attend group or one-on-one coaching sessions, and install filtering software.

Sexual Recovery Institute

The nation’s only comprehensive 2-week intensive treatment program for sexual addiction and sexual compulsivity. They also offer an evening intensive program 3 times per week.

Sex Addict Help

A listing of psychotherapistsin the San Francisco Bay area who offer counseling and psychotherapy to individuals, couples and families struggling with sexual addiction and sexual compulsion.

International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP)

A database to find local sex addiction therapists, support groups, 12-step programs, and sex addiction treatment options. They also provide educational materials to understand sex addiction.

LDS Addiction Recovery Program

The 12 steps of the program are based on gospel principles to help individuals overcome addiction through the Atonement. The steps contain explanations of principles, practical suggestions for applying those principles, and “understanding” questions relating to each step.

Innergold: Addiction Recovery Simplified

Innergold.com offers an online treatment program with over 15 videos, a book and a manual. Gordon S. Bruin L.C.M.H.C. is a pornography addiction counselor that has had great success in helping individuals find sobriety.

Integrity Restored

A seven-point plan where each point is of equal importance and worked on in unison. When all points of the plan are addressed daily, sobriety and recovery can be achieved.

BraveHearts

This program is a mentoring program, with options for personal or group mentoring.

Setting Captives Free

A Christ-centered, 60-day online course based on Biblical principles, personal evaluation questions, and accountability questions.

The Kings Men

“Under Christ the King’s universal call to serve, we as men, pledge to unite and build up other men in the mold of leader, protector, and provider through education, formation and action.” General information and suggested steps for overcoming addictions.

Reclaim Sexual Health

This online program has a neuro-cognitive and faith-based focus with personal tracking and feedback.

Celebrate Recovery

A Christ-centered ministry and biblical program that helps addicts overcome through face-to-face group sessions.

Battle Plan Ministries

A Christ-centered recovery plan that uses scripture study, prayer and spiritual focus to overcome sexual addiction.

Faithful and True

Multiple options to customize treatment: one-on-one counseling, retreat workshops, and group counseling, along with online audio and video training.

Be Broken

A 40-day online course delivered in a daily email, with access to group and personal counseling, workshops, educational resources, and mobile apps.

Mind Armor

“Using principles from scripture and how God designed you to operate, MindArmor®Training Tools teaches you how to break destructive thought patterns associated with lust and pornography through an online training course.” The course includes interactive videos, a workbook, scripture verses, and exercises.

L.I.F.E. Recovery International

“A Christ-centered support group ministry whose mission is to encourage, empower, and equip God’s people to live everyday in sexual integrity. L.I.F.E. provides consistently-revised workbook resources, educational multimedia presentations, and support group structure to the Christian community across the globe.”

Freedom Coaching

A one-on-one mentoring relationship, either in person or via face-to-face video chat online. It is based upon Catholic theology, though this process is available to everyone regardless of religion.

Dirty Girls Ministries (DGM)

DGM offers online recovery groups, online community, accountability, and a coaching/consulting network for churches and individuals.

Christian Women and Porn – Guide to Breaking Free

A book, Christian Woman’s Guide to Breaking Free From Pornography, and a free download of their 30-page eBook, The Misery of Porn and the Joy of Purity.

We Will End the Conflict Now

Written from the religious perspective of a successfully recovered addict and his wife, this book is the culmination of their discoveries concerning the principles vital to recovery and healing.

Route1520

Several recovery options including 4-day Recovery Intensives, Recovery Groups, Sponsorship Groups, and educational resources.

Purify Your Gaze (Muslim-based Resource)

Since 2009, our organization has been dedicated to serving Muslims struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors on their journey to change. We provide online training programs, support groups, and personal coaching. More than 1,000 members from over 35 countries have been through our programs and their testimonials and personal stories can be read on our blog at http://purifyyourgaze.com/blog

National Human Trafficking Hotline: Call 1-888-373-7888 ( TTY: 711)|Text 233733

FBI

  • Trafficking in Persons and Worker Exploitation Task Force at 1-888-428-7581

SexTradeSurvivorResources.com

  • This website hosts a list of resources may be able to help individuals with short-term solutions and a range of emergency services that may be able to help adults involved in the sex trade.

National Human Trafficking Referral Directory

  • The online National Human Trafficking Referral Directory is designed to provide access to critical emergency, transitional, and long-term social services for victims and survivors of human trafficking. The directory also connects individuals with training and technical assistance and opportunities to get involved in their communities.

Polaris Project 

International Justice Mission

  • Human rights agency that brings rescue to victims of slavery, sexual exploitation and other forms of violent oppression. IJM lawyers, investigators and aftercare professionals work with local officials to secure immediate victim rescue and aftercare, to prosecute perpetrators and to ensure that public justice systems – police, courts and laws – effectively protect the poor.

National Center for Missing and Exploited Children

  • Resource center for the public, parents, law enforcement, and others about the issues surrounding the sexual exploitation of children.

Covenant House

  • With locations all over the US, Canada and parts of Latin America, Covenant House works in collaboration with the National Runaway Safeline (NRS) – a crisis care hotline that can provide you with assistance 24-hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. Their crisis shelters are open 24 hours a day with the promise of a hot meal, a warm bed and the chance to rebuild your life.

Department of Health and Human Services

  • Services Available to Victims of Human Trafficking –

Your Local Child and Protective Services

Shared Hope International

  • Exists to rescue and restore women and children in crisis

B.E.S.T.

  • Outreach Center directly services women by providing pro bono attorneys, and Certified Life Coaches in Anti-Trafficking; it also provides doctors, psychologists, medical testing and pharmacy services and clothing. The Lifestyle Center provides skill training to get women the much needed day to day life skill trainings and college bound training and job interview and other training.

Love146

  • Love146 works toward the abolition of child trafficking and exploitation through Prevention and Aftercare solutions while contributing to a growing abolition movement.

Global Centurion

  • Fighting modern day slavery by addressing demand

Children of the Night

  • Rescuing America’s Children from Prostitution

Cherished

  • Cherished is a nonprofit organization, comprised of a residential program and social enterprise that is run by survivors of commercialized sexual exploitation, human trafficking, addictions and life on the streets.

The Samaritan Woman

  • A faith-based organization operating transitional and restorative residential programs to women recovering from sex trafficking.

 

Helpful apps available in Google Play and App Store

Learn about Google’s Safety Center here.

Learn about Apple’s Parental Control Features here.

Many of the filtering companies now provide filters for smartphones and tablets. We recommend Covenant Eyes and Net Nanny, but check out a list of filters here. 

 

Teen Safe

Tool to allow parents to monitor their children’s texts, calls, social media, location and more. The blog has helpful information about many of the dangers they face in the digital world.

Downloadable Resources for the PANTS (The Underwear Rule) by the National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children

Includes a lesson plan, slide presentation, curriculum links, classroom activities and more for parents and teachers.

 

Child Help

Prevention and Treatment of Child Abuse

 

4 Conversations That Can Help Guard Children Against Sexual Abuse by the National Center on Sexual Exploitation

Simple conversations every parent or guardian should have with children to promote healthy boundaries.

 

 

Whether or not you think your teen is sexting, many teens are or their friends are doing it. Eye opening statistics show that 1 in 5 teens admit to sexting. The key word in this statistic is “admit.” There are far more teens who are sexting but don’t admit to it. I can bet the parents of these teens are generally unaware their teen is a “sexter.” Due to the sexting epidemic that is an unfortunate reality today, it is essential that parents talk frequently to their kids about sexting if they don’t want their teen participating in it.

 

The first question is when to start talking to your kids about the peril sexting brings. The first discussion should commence before your child even gets a cell phone or any device that’s capable of sending a sext (ie. computers, tablets, etc). Once a child receives such a device, they are susceptible to the influences of sexting. To prevent your teen from sexting you should take initiative. After your child has a device, you should frequently have an open discussion on the topic. Frequent and open discussions about sexting will make your child feel comfortable to approach and talk to you about it.

 

The second question is how to talk to your child about sexting. Sexting is a difficult topic to approach and requires a balancing act. You don’t want to appear too judgmental or forceful, but at the same time you want to be firm with where you stand and help them to see the dangers and consequences. To aid in your discussion we have listed a few helpful talking points:

  • What do you think is considered sexting?
    • Sexting: sending someone sexually explicit photographs or messages, whether verbal or in pictures
  • Is there any harm to sexting?
    • Can be charged for child pornography (by sending or receiving sexts)
    • Images/messages follow you, you can’t delete them once they are sent
    • Sexually objectifies you
    • Images are almost always shared with others besides the receiver.
    • Reputation and future opportunities are often at risk.
    • Many stories of children being forced into prostitution or sex trafficking begin with the “pimp” using sexts as a means of coercion to get them to comply with their demands.
  • Is sexting worth the attention?
    • The receiver and those they show it to are likely to lose some respect for you.
    • You become a sexual object instead of a real person
    • The individual asking will often try to make you feel special but all he/she really wants is a sexually explicit photo. Odds are, if he/she doesn’t get it from you they will just try and get it from someone else. As long as they get it, they don’t care if it’s from you or the next person
  • Do you have control over a picture/ message once it’s sent?
    • Absolutely not. Nearly every teen who receives a sext ends up sharing it or forwarding to others, and many sexts end up on third party websites. All of this usually occurs without your knowledge or consent.
  • Why do people sext?
    • Seeking attention/approval
    • Peer pressure
    • Bullying
    • Want to satisfy another

 

Here are some tips to start the discussion:

  • Talk about healthy media choices in general.
  • Mention a story you heard in the news about other kids who are engaged in sexting.
  • Ask if they know anyone who does this, maybe other kids at school.
  • Ask if they have ever been asked to sext.
  • Ask your kids about their future goals and then start talking about some hurdles they might encounter that would impede those goals (sexting can impact grades, college acceptance, etc.)
  • Have frequent talks about healthy intimacy and boundaries, work sexting into the discussions.

 

REMEMBER THAT THIS IS NOT A ONE TIME CONVERSATION!

 

Talking to your kids is the most crucial and effective way to prevent sexting. Genuinely understanding the harms and consequences of sexting will be the best form of prevention. It’s a lot better for your kids to choose not to sext than to force them not to sext.

 

However, you can also consider taking actions to monitor your kids’ devices. This can be done a number of ways. To get you started, here are three ideas:

 

  1. Check you child’s devices at random times. Checking at random times will encourage your kids to not send or receive anything inappropriate because they don’t know when you may check their device.
  2. Don’t let your child go to bed with their devices. When a teen goes to bed they are left behind closed doors for hours, and as the saying goes, “nothing good happens after midnight.” This creates a prime environment for sexting. Don’t let that environment be created.
  3. Use a program or app that helps you monitor your kid’s cell phone and Internet activity. Dr. Phil has an excellent list of recommended programs to use. Click HERE to access the list. Here is a list of resources compiled by us.

 

MORE RESOURCES FOR PARENTS

 Our resource center:

  • A list of resources for parents, includes: talking about porn, safe media choices, technology solutions, discussing healthy intimacy, etc. Click here.

How to find if your teen is sexting on Snapchat:

  • http://money.cnn.com/2014/09/03/technology/social/spy-on-snapchat/

More programs for monitoring your child’s device:

Further help with talking points:

  • http://www.wcsap.org/sexting-talking-points-youth-focused
  • http://www.whowillyouempower.com/craigsblog/2014/4/22/sexting-a-digital-topic-to-talk-about-with-your-teen
  • http://www.childmind.org/en/posts/articles/2011-6-8-how-talk-your-kids-about-sexting

Sexting is the act of sending sexually explicit photographs or messages with an electronic device. Students at Drexel University were asked if they had ever participated in sexting when they were under 18; 54% reported yes and most of them thought it was “no big deal.” Another study found that increasingly youth are producing child pornography and the study indicates that 100 percent of the content was shared to third party websites, which cannot be traced. The researchers noted a specific concern that the young people featured, “took no steps to conceal their identity or location, even in many cases using their real names.” The study also found that 667 of the images and videos evaluated featured children 15 years and younger, and of this group, 286 were 10 years or younger. The researchers said their report confirms an alarming trend of young children producing and distributing explicit content online.

Despite the normalization of sexting, the dangers and consequences of sexting are often life altering. It’s a huge deal with real consequences, but that concept has a hard time penetrating naïve perceptions of the venomous act.

There is an extensive list of the dangers of sexting. Here are five that you should especially be aware of:

 

  1. It is child porn. If an individual under 18 sends a sexually explicit message/photograph they are creating and distributing child pornography. Whether an individual creates, distributes, or views child pornography, it is a crime. Eight students at a high school in Pennsylvania learned this the hard way. Ranging from ages 13 to 17, the teens we all accused of “using their cell phones to take, send, or receive nude photos of each other and in one case a short video of a oral sex. That resulted in a felony child pornography charge for each minor.” Stories like this are unfortunately very common these days. The criminal records often stay with these kids and they risk being forced to register as sex offenders for the rest of their lives. Sexting is an ugly crime that makes a permanent mark on offenders’ records. What’s worse is that child predators and child porn collectors often find these images and further distribute them to others.

 

  1. The image follows you. Once an image or video is released via text or over the Internet, it is out there forever. Even if you think it’s deleted “IT departments can retrieve text messages that the user thought were deleted months or even years ago.” Most of the “sexting” apps like Snapchat have been hacked and receivers often make copies without the sender’s knowledge. A nude or even partially nude photo is not an image you want in the realm of forever. It takes one second to send a photo/message that will haunt you for the rest of your life.

 

  1. It will spread. Most “sexters” are under the false impression that the receiver of the sext will keep it confidential. Although we would like to think this is true, this is not reality. A study concludes, “of those who reported receiving a sext, well over 25 percent said that they had forwarded it to someone else. So, they’re sharing the pics with their friends.” There have been instances at many high schools of students creating email, Facebook, and even Instagram accounts with a collection of nude or partly nude pictures of girls at the school. These images are contributed to the accounts from various students who have received them on their personal The only way to assure a sext does not circulate is to never send one.

 

  1. Damages your Reputation. When sending a sext an individual is not just sending a sexually explicit message or photograph. They are also sending unwanted messages about themselves that are likely to injure their reputation. A sext can communicate that the sender is easily persuaded, very sexual, and interested in pleasing others, however that may be. A sext can also make the receiver view the sender as a sexual object instead of a real person with real feelings. Reputations are invaluable but can be ruined as fast as pressing send.

 

  1. Leads to bullying. Unfortunately sexts can and are often used to humiliate. There’s nothing stopping those who receive sexts from publically displaying them for all to see or using them as black mail. In one case, a 13-year-old girl committed suicide after “topless photographs circulated.” What was sent to gain the attention from a boy, quickly “got the attention of her school, as well as the high school nearby.” It only took one sext to yield such a tragic outcome. Many reports from sex trafficked girls indicate that traffickers first used sexts as a means to coerce their victims to comply with their demands.

 

Sexting can seem so harmless and appear very private. When looking at the facts though, it’s not the in the least regard harmless. Sexting is camouflaged by the hopes of getting attention, the desire to feel wanted, and the pressures of society; but the dangers of it must be exposed.

 

Please visit this resource center for parents!

 

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Many of the devices that we use daily have built in controls to manage what type of content the user is able to access. Here are how-to guides on how to turn these on for different systems.

Talk About Abuse to Liberate Kids – TAALK.org

TAALK has many resources and a private forum with one section that is specifically for Parents of Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse: https://taalk.org/forum.html

TAALK’s Resource Directory

The resources in this directory have notbeen audited, verified or certified by TAALK in any way. We are providing this directory as a means of easy access to resources directly related to child sexual abuse.

Surviving Parents Coalition

The Surviving Parents Coalition is a parent-driven, 501c4 organization committed to saving lives.  Our coalition’s founding demonstrates the power of survival and how suffering can motivate people to accomplish extraordinary things. We must defend the innocent.   Child safety programs and the agencies involved need resources.  We lobby for funding and legislation because they are essential to effective change. Our goal is to ensure young people mature naturally without abuse and emotional turmoil. The SPC is determined to grow and spread out nationally one family at a time. United together we become a mighty force for reform.

California Protective Parents Association – www.protectiveparents.com
Mothers of Lost Children – www.mothers-of-lost-children.com
The Leadership Council on Child Abuse and Interpersonal Violence – www.leadershipcouncil.org
Safe Kids International –  www.safekidsinternational.org

BOOK: Don’t Make Me Go Back, Mommy 

A picture book that makes the topic of ritual abuse accessible to parents and young children.

Porn Harms Research
These archives, managed by National Center on Sexual Exploitation, offer the most comprehensive look at peer-reviewed research on pornography available today. Hundreds of articles are available and summarized for easy understanding and they are divided by more than 20 specific categories.

National Center on Sexual Exploitation’s Talking Points Webpage
Find summarized talking points backed by credible research and surveys, along with video presentations led by experts, on the topics of pornography and addiction, marriage, brain science, impact to children, links to sex trafficking and prostitution, increased violence and more.

PornHarms.com
Website directed by National Center on Sexual Exploitation to help educate on the harms of pornography and provide actions to actively oppose policies that promote pornography and sexual exploitation.

Fight the New Drug
This organization targets teens and young adults and provides clear education, tools, and resources to avoid and overcome pornography addiction.

Your Brain on Porn
“This site will help you understand exactly how today’s extreme Internet porn can alter the brain. In our view, porn use isn’t a moral issue. This site grew out of a decade of research analysis on the effects of sex on the brain, and six years of listening to recovering porn addicts.”

Pink Cross Foundation
“This web site contains large doses of truth about the sex industry for purposes of education… Men and women addicted to porn need to hear it straight from the women who were there.”

Covenant Eyes
This is an accountability and filtering software company, but has really great resources about the consequences of pornography and they regularly update their blog to help you understand latest information and dangers.

Internet Safety 101 from Enough Is Enough
Provides updates and help to adults for protecting children online. Site exists to educate you about the dangers; to empower you with the ability to recognize the warning signs and with helpful ways to discuss Internet safety with your kids; and to equip you with the safety resources you need.

Coalition to End Sexual Exploitation
The EndExploitationMovement.com website lists hundreds of groups who are involved in opposing sexual exploitation and you can search by category to find what groups cover the specific areas you hope to learn more about.

Reboot Nation
We are a community of people who have discovered the negative effects of pornography. If you or loved ones struggle with porn addiction and/or porn-induced sexual dysfunctions, this place is for you!

National Center on Sexual Exploitation
Founded in 1962, National Center on Sexual Exploitation is the leading national organization opposing pornography by highlighting the links to sex trafficking, violence against women, child abuse, addiction and more. NCSE works to expose the seamless connection between all forms of sexual exploitation.

malesurvivor.org

Overcoming sexual victimization of men and boys

 

1in6.org

Resources include a 24/7 online support line offering 1-on-1 chat with a trained advocate, our free and confidential online peer support groups which meet weekly, and a wealth of useful information, including answers to common questions and an explanation of certain myths & facts.

 

RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) – anti-sexual violence organization. Lots of resources.

 

National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE

National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE

National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-252-2873, 1-800-25ABUSE

 

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