Suggested Resources for Recovering Sex Buyers

  • One of the first places we encourage you to go is to the website NotLove.org operated by Street Grace. This website provides educational tools to help understanding compulsions that lead to buying sex, testimonials of those who have been where you are at (and worse) and how they found healing. As well as local resources, no matter what part of the country you are in, to help you TODAY to begin to move forward towards healing.
  • Chicago Alliance Against Sexual Exploitation (CEASE) has a program called “Empowering Young Men to End Sexual Exploitation” for young men between the ages of 14 and 18, designed to reduce and eliminate sexual violence, exploitation, and trafficking. “During the five 45-minute sessions, participants will have a safe environment in which to discuss healthy relationships, violence prevention, and both social and personal responsibility. By the program’s conclusion, students will be able to explain sexual exploitation as a form of violence against women, discuss social perceptions of masculinity as created by peers and the media, and act as allies against sexual exploitation and trafficking by identifying practical ways to end sexual harm.”
  • Sawyer Solutions, directed by Steve Sawyer is the founder of one of the very first “john school” types of interventions in the United States, in Minneapolis/St. Paul MN back in 1988. He provides a therapeutic, counseling approach for problematic sexual behavior, NOT an education program or class.  
  • Support groups modeled after the 12-step program framework of Alcoholics Anonymous will offer some help to overcoming compulsive sexual behavior, though we have not found that they specifically address sex buying directly: Sex Addicts Anonymous, Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, and Sexual Compulsives Anonymous. 
  • Veronica’s Voice in Kansas City (with some possible virtual options) offers a restorative-justice-diversion approach. It is designed to help men understand their behavior and promote their accountability in choosing to not buy sex. 
  • LifeStar Network – This program is divided into 3 levels of intensive group therapy lead by highly trained and licensed therapists. LifeStar strongly suggests that participants also participate in individual and/or couples therapy, along with a 12-step SAA program outside of the LifeStar program.
  • ATSA (Association for Treatment of Sexual Abusers) treatment of people who are at risk to sexually offend as well as those who have sexually offended. Juvenile program includes work with children who display sexual behavior problems and adolescents who have engaged in sexually abusive behavior, or other sexual behavior problems. 
  • International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP) – A database to find local sex addiction therapists, support groups, 12-step programs, and sex addiction treatment options. They also provide educational materials to understand sex addiction. 

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It is never justifiable to sexually abuse or exploit someone, no matter their age, race, or sex.

National Human Trafficking Hotline: Call 1-888-373-7888 ( TTY: 711) | Text 233733
A safe, confidential service that will connect you to a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.

HOW DO I REPORT SEXUAL ASSAULT TO POLICE?

  • Call 911. If you are in immediate danger, dial 911. Help will come to you, wherever you are.
  • Contact the local police department. Call the direct line of your local police station or visit the station in person. If you are on a college campus you may also be able to contact campus-based law enforcement.
  • Visit a medical center. If you are being treated for injuries resulting from physical and/or sexual assault, tell a medical professional that you wish to report the crime. You can also choose to have a sexual assault forensic exam.
  • Child Help – ChildHelp Speak up be safe increases children’s ability to recognize unsafe situations or abusive behaviors and builds resistance skills, lessons focus on helping children build a responsive safety network with peers and adults that the child identifies as safe.
  • Talk About Abuse to Liberate Kids – TAALK.org – TAALK has many resources and a private forum with one section that is specifically for Parents of Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse: https://taalk.org/forum.html
  • ATSA (Association for Treatment of Sexual Abusers) treatment of people who are at risk to sexually offend as well as those who have sexually offended. Juvenile program includes work with children who display sexual behavior problems and adolescents who have engaged in sexually abusive behavior, or other sexual behavior problems.
  • National Center for Missing and Exploited Children – NCMEC works with families, victims, private industry, law enforcement, and the public to assist with preventing child abductions, recovering missing children, and providing services to deter and combat child sexual exploitation.
  • Defend Young Minds™ encourages and equips parents and professionals with tools to raise empowered, resilient and screen-smart kids who know how to reject pornography. Led by Kristen A. Jenson, author of the #1 best-selling Good Pictures Bad Pictures series of read-aloud books and executive producer of Brain Defense: Digital Safety, a ground breaking curriculum for kids ages 7-11.
  • Good Pictures, Bad Pictures and Good Pictures, Bad Pictures, Jr.
    This read-aloud book is a comfortable way to discuss a difficult topic. It teaches kids what pornography is, why it’s harmful, and how to reject it. To stay safe in the digital age, kids must install an internal filter. Good Pictures Bad Pictures shows them how! Great for ages 7-12, and the Jr. edition is great for ages 3-6!
  • S-Anon – A recovery program for men and women whose lives have been affected by someone else’s compulsive sexual behavior. It is based on the principles of Alcoholics Anonymous (Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions) adapted, with permission, for couples recovering from sex addiction.
  • Recovering Couples Anonymous (RCA) – A recovery program for men and women whose lives have been affected by their partner or spouse’s compulsive sexual behavior. It is based on the principles of Alcoholics Anonymous (Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions) adapted, with permission, for couples recovering from sex addiction.

  • LifeStar Network – This program is divided into 3 levels of intensive group therapy lead by highly trained and licensed therapists. LifeStar strongly suggests that participants also participate in individual and/or couples therapy, along with a 12-step SAA program outside of the LifeStar program.

  • LifeStar Network – This program is divided into 3 levels of intensive group therapy lead by highly trained and licensed therapists. LifeStar strongly suggests that participants also participate in individual and/or couples therapy, along with a 12-step SAA program outside of the LifeStar program.
  • ATSA (Association for Treatment of Sexual Abusers) treatment of people who are at risk to sexually offend as well as those who have sexually offended. Juvenile program includes work with children who display sexual behavior problems and adolescents who have engaged in sexually abusive behavior, or other sexual behavior problems.
  • International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP) – A database to find local sex addiction therapists, support groups, 12-step programs, and sex addiction treatment options. They also provide educational materials to understand sex addiction.
  • Relay – A group-based recovery program that helps with a variety of unwanted behaviors including pornography addiction

Almost all systems and platforms have some sort of built-in parental controls that we encourage you to turn on. For example: iPhone or Android restrictions, using Safe Search on Google, parental controls on videogame systems, restricting mature rated content through your cable/satellite provider, etc.

Learn about the built-in protective measures provided by many of the popular systems used today:

Here are how-to guides on how to turn these on for different systems.

Here are third-party systems that may also be a help to you and your family:

Survivor Resources

It is never justifiable to sexually abuse or exploit someone, no matter their age, race, or sex.

National Human Trafficking Hotline: Call 1-888-373-7888 ( TTY: 711) | Text 233733
A safe, confidential service that will connect you to a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.

HOW DO I REPORT SEXUAL ASSAULT TO POLICE?

  • Call 911. If you are in immediate danger, dial 911. Help will come to you, wherever you are.
  • Contact the local police department. Call the direct line of your local police station or visit the station in person. If you are on a college campus you may also be able to contact campus-based law enforcement.
  • Visit a medical center. If you are being treated for injuries resulting from physical and/or sexual assault, tell a medical professional that you wish to report the crime. You can also choose to have a sexual assault forensic exam.

Get Help:

Are You A Survivor of Sex Trafficking?

Visit SexualExploitationLawsuits.com to Find Resources and Options for Legal Recourse.
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National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE

National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE

National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-25ABUSE

  • RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) – RAINN carries out programs to prevent sexual violence, help survivors, and ensure that perpetrators are brought to justice. Their National Sexual Assault Online Hotline (Open 24/7) provides free, confidential, help for sexual assault victims, and their friends and families. They can also help victims find local Crisis and Counseling Centers.
  • National Center for Missing and Exploited Children – NCMEC works with families, victims, private industry, law enforcement, and the public to assist with preventing child abductions, recovering missing children, and providing services to deter and combat child sexual exploitation.

National Human Trafficking Hotline: Call 1-888-373-7888 ( TTY: 711)|Text 233733

  • National Trafficking Sheltered Alliance – Find residential services for recovery from trafficking or sexual exploitation. 
  • Resources for Individuals in the Sex Trade – This website hosts a list of resources may be able to help individuals with short-term solutions and a range of emergency services that may be able to help adults involved in the sex trade ie: prostitution, stripping, escorting, pornography, etc.
  • National Human Trafficking Referral Directory – The online National Human Trafficking Referral Directory is designed to provide access to critical emergency, transitional, and long-term social services for victims and survivors of human trafficking. The directory also connects individuals with training, technical assistance, and opportunities to get involved in their communities.

If you want to learn more about Image-Based Sexual Abuse, visit our IBSA page here. 

Resources:
Cyber Civil Rights Initiative (https://cybercivilrights.org/ccri-safety-center/): 844-878-CCRI (2274)

Remove non-consensual explicit or intimate personal images from Google: https://support.google.com/websearch/answer/6302812?hl=en

DMCA takedown resource: https://withoutmyconsent.org/resources/something-can-be-done-guide/take-down/

The NCOSE Law Center (https://sexualexploitationlawsuits.com/get-help/)

Bark’s State-by-State Sexting Laws Resource (https://www.bark.us/blog/state-by-state-differences-in-sexting-laws/)

Additional information can be found on this blog post: https://endsexualexploitation.org/articles/my-boyfriend-shared-my-nudes-how-do-i-get-them-taken-down/

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